Advice By Kim

Game of Love

Do you think The Rules is manipulative or too much game-playing?

You are right. It is a game… And the name of the game is, “How much do you like yourself?” This is called self-esteem.

If it’s hard for you to do The Rules, then let me ask you this, “Is it hard to love yourself?”

The Rules is all about having a long-term game strategy. This isn’t just about getting dates for Saturday night. It’s for the rest of your life.

The Rules Book says, “Rule #34: Love only those who love you.”

By Law of Attraction, you date at the level of your self-esteem.

Understand that your self-esteem is not fixed. It is something that fluctuates from moment to moment depending on how you make decisions daily.

The degree to how much self-awareness, self-control, and self-discipline you have is the level of your self-esteem. They are directly related. You cannot separate them.

Without self-esteem, it is not possible for you to have a happy, healthy, long-term relationship with anyone else.

The most important relationship is the one with yourself.

When you love yourself, your taste in men will change. What does that look like?

These are “Kim’s Rules” for lasting success in relationships:

You take care of yourself, your health and well-being.
You take 100% responsibility for your own happiness.

You eat right, exercise and live a full, happy life.
You do things that make you feel good and are good for you.

You don’t call or chase men.
You make decisions with your head, not just with your heart.

You don’t beg or grovel for someone to love you.
You don’t pine after a guy who doesn’t want you.

You know you are a unique and amazing woman. Any man is lucky to have you!
You are not interested in men who ignore you and mistreat you.

You don’t even think about men who don’t notice you.
You don’t call men who go “poof” and ask them, “What did I do wrong?”

You love being desired, pursued and courted. 
You love being treated like a Queen Goddess and no less.

No more waiting, wondering and worrying.
No more lonely Saturday nights!

You follow The Rules to keep yourself emotionally safeguarded and sane.
No more struggle, no more drama, no more pain!

The reward is a loving husband and fairytale come true…
Remember Rule #34: Love only those who love you!

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

P.S. – Do you have your copy of The Rules yet?

Recommended Books:
1. All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
2. The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace
3. Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
4. The New Rules: Dating Do’s and Don’ts for the Digital Generation

Advice By Kim

Is It Hard?

Is it hard for you to walk away from a Lukewarm Suitor who isn’t that into you to begin with?

Is it hard to accept that your Suitor is now a Timewaster?

Is it hard to do “No Contact” with your ex and move on?

It’s hard because we all want it EASY and we want it NOW… Not later.

You are where you are because it’s COMFORTABLE.

There is nothing wrong with that, but it’s deceptively dangerous. When you are comfortable, you cannot change and grow.

You remove the option of upgrading and finding Mr. Right. You stagnate in a mediocre relationship that is unsatisfying but unable to walk away.

When you are comfortable, you tend to stay in “Relationship Limbo.” It’s neither heaven nor hell.

Or worse…

You make bad decisions that create trauma bonding with abusive relationships. This causes even more harm in the long run, emotionally and physically.

Taking the easy way is like making a deal with the devil. It feels good now but there’s a hidden price to pay later.

In fact, you end up paying more than you ever thought. Far more than the price of Rules Consultations with me.

I’ve told countless clients to walk away when the writing is on the wall. This is not the moment to be weak, indecisive and stall.

You must make a critical decision where timing is of the essence. Don’t wait!

I’m not telling you something frivolous, like what shoes to wear for your date.

Here’s what happens…
The ones who listened got the ring.
The ones who did not got dumped.
(Much to their shock!)

You don’t need a crystal ball to know what will happen. Show me what rules you’ve done (or broken) and I’ll show you your future.

Many clients say I’m amazing because of my precise and accurate advice. I just tell people the unsugarcoated truth.

If you want the ring, you must do what is required of you: follow The Rules. Do it without fail, without waffling, and without excuses.

You can choose not to follow The Rules… I won’t go after you… But you don’t get to choose the consequences of breaking them.

These are iron-clad rules from which there is no escape. This is The Law of Sowing and Reaping:

Whatever a woman soweth in her relationships, that which shall she reap.

The Bible

My coaching is all about achieving long lasting success by having ethics. Most people are not successful in life because having ethics is hard.

Do what is hard, not what is easy. For lasting success, so much depends on your ability to “Choose your hard.”

To hear more on this, listen to my audio lecture, “Mission CUAO.” The best investment is yourself.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

P.S. – Do you have your copy of The Rules yet?

Recommended Books:
1. All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
2. The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace
3. Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
4. The New Rules: Dating Do’s and Don’ts for the Digital Generation


Advice By Kim

On Giving Advice

Do you like to share The Rules with everyone? If so, what was the result?

Were you ever burned or betrayed by a friend for being generous with your time, energy and knowledge?

Did they humiliate you by telling the guy you were dating about The Rules?

There’s a reason the authors call it, “Time-tested Secrets.”

When it comes to your dating life, less is better.

Don’t be so eager to share your dating strategy with everyone just because The Rules have helped you. Be discreet, high-value, and hard to get even with friends.

Not everyone will appreciate your help or The Rules. It’s not for everyone.

Better to be quiet and self-assured. Not eagerly rushing to help others whenever.

Your time is valuable. Isn’t it?

People who rush to the support of others tend to gain little respect in the process, for their help is so easily obtained, while those who stand back are besieged with supplicants.

-Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

You will gain more respect from others when you respect your own time. Sometimes helping people means letting them help themselves.

If you want to project feminine poise and high-value, maintain an air of mystery by stepping back.

Less is powerful.

Sharing too much makes you seem needy and commonplace.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

Recommended Books:
1. All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
2. The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace
3. Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
4. The New Rules: Dating Do’s and Don’ts for the Digital Generation
5. The 48 Laws of Power