Miss to Mrs

I Said Yes

On this day, he asked, “Will you marry me?”

I had just turned 26 years old 2 weeks before on August 1st. It was the weekend right before I started my new job teaching high school physics in a small town called Grandview, Texas.

Every Saturday, I had church choir practice at 4:00pm so I was busy all the time. Hardly had a spare moment. I don’t know how he managed to make it happen, but no matter what was going on, my husband was very well-organized and a good planner. The best part was he always knew how to keep everything hidden to make sure it a surprise.

He was very impressed that I was in such an agreeable mood that day. I said, “Okay” to everything he asked. Without asking any questions. Nor did it seem like I suspected anything. I did not seem anxious or worried at all. I was perfectly poised in my feminine power. I trusted him. Completely.

He was leading me to a surprise romantic proposal and it happened because I let go. For the first time, I had no idea what was going on and I was okay with that. I was totally calm, relaxed, and maintained my feminine poise. Because no matter what, I am sure of myself and I trusted him.

My husband originally wanted to take me on a special trip somewhere. But we had already taken 6 trips to Chicago for family funerals and weddings. It was like everyone decided to get married all at once that year! There was no time. The ring was ready and he could not wait. On this day, he proposed and I said, “Yes.”

I secretly had a deadline in my mind to be married by 25 and got engaged two weeks after turning 26. Of course, I never told him until just a couple of years ago. He was shocked at how I could keep something secret for so long. That’s keeping the mystery. It was a private deadline I made before I met him and never told anyone.

Considering the fact that my husband never knew my secret timeline, his timing was impeccable.

As women, we have to respect that a man’s timing for the proposal is not within our control. If you had heard my husband’s story and everything he had to go through to get the ring, you would be sweet, understanding and patient. Planning the perfect proposal takes a lot of work, coordination and time.

Everything worked out so smoothly because I was patient with him and maintained my feminine poise. Do not suffer like mere mortals by being impatient or in a hurry. Act as if you have all the time in the world.

“Patience is the supreme virtue of the gods who have nothing but time.”

-Robert Greene

When you practice patience, you are the Divine Feminine standing in your own power and the Divine Masculine will follow.

Advice By Kim

Online Dating

Before you commit dating suicide, read this book, “The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right” (Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider, 2002) This is probably the most underrated but useful and relevant book for online dating.

It will answers questions like: How do I write an ad? Should I post a picture? Should I answer a man’s ad? How to I respond to instant messages? How soon should I answer his emails? How do I juggle emails and phone calls? How should I negotiate meeting the man in person? How do I choose a good screen name? How do I evaluate the quality of an online relationship as it develops? If we initially met in person, how do I conduct myself in emails with him?

My reputation for success stories is attributed to helping you train your suitor with “Uncommon & Superior Strategies,” which is beyond The Rules. However, you can’t be “uncommon & superior” if you don’t even know basic rules. Study this book before you get on the market!

If you’re a client of mine, you will find that my dating strategy is different from anything you have ever done or read out there. It’s counter-intuitive. It goes against popular dating advice. It will make you uncomfortable. It doesn’t feel natural. It will test your insecurities and confidence, but it’s far more powerful and effective any advice you have ever known. This is how you rank up and stand out as a Creature Unlike Any Other. Men want the best in class.

It takes a lot of courage, inner strength and conviction to follow my advice without excuses. Those are the incredible success stories you see. It’s why my clients are proud to share their testimony and have their photos published on my social media sites. Marriage is an accomplishment to be proud of.

Coaching requires the deepest level of trust, discipline, mental toughness and the humility to listen and learn. This is what wife material is made of and what men look for in a mate. You will be severely tested in dating.

Whether it’s online or in real life, you will meet men who are experienced at gaming women. It’s just their way of sorting out targets. Since they are hunters, they have more exposure to the stacking order of targets. You must understand the male mindset and their dating strategy (see Erotic Power) to be successful at getting a proposal. But if you don’t know the basics, you will be at the mercy of narcissistic players and Tinderfellas.

The key is to set yourself apart as the Creature Unlike Any Other by behaving differently than all the desperate women because that is the general assessment men have of the dating market. They expect you to be desperate, so take them by surprise. Be the prize catch.

I just realized that I’ve taught at least 4 classes about online dating alone. For those wanting a book, this is one of my hidden gems available on the market. Not everything I have is for sale. Some items are exclusively available to VIP clients only. (e.g. “Time Stand Still,” the jewel of my crown and my most famous lesson from Secrets of the Modern Geisha).

If you’re online dating and struggling, here’s a list of 21 quick questions I’ve answered for Rules Girls attending “The Rabbit Hole” lecture on October 2012 before “Not Your Mother’s Rules was published February 14, 2013. You don’t have to book a consult to get my advice. Just download the audio and listen at your leisure.

1. Last Minute Dates: Should we refuse any last minute date of the same guy until he starts to asks you in advance (3 days before the date), even he already asked me more than 6 times? 

2. Long Distance Visits: Should we wait until his 3 visits to schedule any visit to his city?

3. Texts After a Month of Silence: If a guy had started to text you, asking out for Last minute date and you refused them and after 1 month he starts to invite you again, should a Rules girl text him back and act like he texted you yesterday (LOL)?

4. Breaking Old Habit of Driving to Him: I’ve established a pattern where I am driving to my guy – I am trying to get him to come to my area, but finding this difficult… How can I undo old habits?

5. Your Date is Great But Consistently Late: The Rules and Modern Geisha are all about being light, breezy, and easy to get along with. What do we do if things seem to be going well but a guy is consistently late?

6. When Is It OK to Have Sex?

7. Significance of Saturday Night Dates

8. Asking for Photos

9. Texting on a Date

10. Romantic Gifts

11. Driving for a Date

12. Asking for His Intentions

13. Signs He Wants to Marry You

14. Criteria for a Successful Relationship

15. Can You Do The Rules Without Marriage?

16. The Rules and Flirting

17. Never Speak to a Man First

18. Letting Your Guard Down

19. Detaching from Sex

20. How to Ensure His Faithfulness

21. Reconnecting with Childhood Friends

Review of “The Rabbit Hole“:

In just a few hours, The Rabbit Hole lesson cleared up burning questions that women prattle about for months and years.  The Rules mean it when they say “Love should be easy.”  Why read endless books in the relationship section or spend time on a dating blog when Kim can give you quick answers? This lesson is your on the spot guide to save you from wondering if he’s into you or not. It’s not as hard or complicated as women make it out to be.

THerapist in Boston, Ma

You can find “The Rabbit Hole” on my Gumroad store: https://gumroad.com/kimevazians.

Advice By Kim

Coaching Is Self-Love

Reaching out for coaching is an act of self-love. Who is looking out for you?

An endearing love note from a 28 yr old client–an impressive young lady from the Philippines who’s been saving up to work with me. (The girls in SE Asia call me Mrs. Kim).

She has a lot of guts to approach an American coach when English is not her first language and the exchange rate is 3-4 times.

I admire the fact that she isn’t afraid of my toughness. Instead, she feels protected, empowered, and blessed. I asked her, “What made you decide to book with me?”

She said, “What made me decide is you produced RESULTS. I wanna be the next successful story. I also learned that it is definitely not a walk in the park, it requires mental and emotional toughness. This is also the time that someone have seen and discovered the potential in me. I am just too blind and vague to see because of too much noise in my head and in my surroundings, it has greatly sacrificed my wellbeing. And I am very glad to have started the guts to pull myself out the situation and deal with the problem, and have faith in the universe while working with a heavenly mentor that produces ACTUAL RESULTS with clients who have happy endings.”

She is not calling me for dating advice but taking the time to invest herself right now. She used to feel self-pity but now her confidence is soaring.

I call her “Goddess in Progress.”

Modern Geisha

Forgotten Femininity

The Rules isn’t anything new, radical or revolutionary.

It’s just a reminder of how things have always been…

Before women thought it was fashionable to be more like men.

I’m just bringing back the lost and forgotten art of femininity.

The Modern Geisha is the “Return of the Goddess.”

Never forget who you were meant to be.

Rediscovering your inner goddess and feminine power is your divine destiny.

If you only knew how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think anything negative again.

You don’t attract what you want but what you are ready for.

Miss to Mrs

Date with Destiny 7.17

Photo by Raman Evazians boating on Lake Travis

Today is a very special milestone in my life and emotional day for me. It’s the day we decided to call the anniversary of when we met and became an official couple.

We met on July 14th in Austin while boating with mutual friends on the lake over the weekend. That following Monday, July 17th my husband sent his first email before asking me out on our first date. It was a date with destiny that would change my life forever.

You will always hear me talk about you have 30 seconds to make a good first impression. Everything after that is to confirm the kind of impression you made. So much depends on that critical window.

After all these years, I have even more confirmation that I married my soulmate. It was destiny.

I was going to share what my husband wrote to give you the kind of impression I left that sealed the deal so you can understand how men think, date and choose their mate.

But then I decided some things are better left a mystery.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Male Universe

Masculine Insecurity Is Real

Masculine insecurity is a real issue due to their hardwiring and inner child wounds.

It’s not something you should just write off like, “Oh, he’s just insecure!” and use that to shame men for your relationship problems. So you take the focus off of you and blame it all on them. That is being insensitive, inconsiderate and self-absorbed.

You must learn how to do your part and do it graciously and lovingly. All relationships are your mirror. You don’t live in a vacuum. Men react to your actions. Therefore, how a man treats you tells me how well you are (or not) doing The Rules.

Take responsibility for everything you create in your life because the Divine Feminine leads on an emotional and spiritual level. (Yes, The Rules Books does say that women carry the emotional burden of the relationship, not the man.)

The male ego is ultra sensitive, fragile and should be handled with care. You can help a man feel more secure is by doing The Rules as a daily, consistent way of life in ALL your relationships, not just with men. But mostly on YOURSELF.

A man needs a woman who is sweet, gracious and respectful while standing in her own power, her supreme femininity. Not a loud, bossy, controlling, power-obsessed woman who is disrespectful of his masculinity.

Healthy boundaries, self-control and Holding Your Mood is always classy and ATTRACTIVE.

Doing The Rules brings out the best in you and in your man.

If you are too self-absorbed, emotionally heavy or resentful of men “being men,” then relationships are NOT for you.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.