10th Anniversary Cruise with Mr. Right

Hello Rules Fans!
Just wanted to write a quick note before we cruise off on our vacation.

If it’s been quiet, it’s because I’ve been a busy-bee helping women get to the altar faster! (It’s much easier getting a Ph.D than getting married these days.) Speaking of which, 10 years ago was when Mr. Right and I walked down the aisle to say, “I do.”

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He is taking us on a 7-day Caribbean cruise to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary on Juneteenth (June 19th), an important milestone in American history. Do you know what that is? That’s your pop trivia question for today. (Comment below if you know!)

We’ve both been busy, working brutally hard and have not had a vacation since last year on our anniversary in Cancun.

Even though my husband recently lost his job (a blessing, not a misfortune) and our budget is far more modest, he is still indulging me in week-long cruise even though he’d rather be working on his new venture.

The story is, he’s been “in the zone” working passionately and relentlessly and was not exactly in the mood for a break, especially in the midst of making so much progress.

Dilemma: Husband wants to work. Wife wants a vacation. Husband wants to hit the accelerator. Wife wants a reset button to refresh, recalibrate and rejuvenate.

 

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So what happened?

Husband yields to wife and books a cruise.

After all, that is what loving, caring and devoted Rules husbands do. In a Rules marriage, husbands put their wives first. Most importantly, they plan something special and romantic for anniversaries.

Lately, several clients have asked me, “What if a guy is cheap with gifts?” If he’s cheap with gifts, then he’s going to be cheap with love and commitment. Remember, men work hard to earn money because they know it will enable them to date and marry their dream girl.

It’s not about the money, but the type of gift. It has to be romantic, not practical. But a man who is in love with a woman will lavish her with romantic gifts and try to impress her with the best. Romance is not about being frugal, it’s frivolous. Mr. Right will be emotionally and financially invested in you. This is your litmus test when weeding out Mr. Wrong.

Mr. Right will be more romantic than pragmatic. He budgets where he can, but doesn’t pinch pennies when it comes to his wife or dream girl on romantic holidays (her birthday, Valentine’s Day and their anniversary).

Since it’s summer, clients are also asking me if they can accept invitations to 1-week long vacations with a guy are dating, especially when they are dying for a vacation, too! The rule is no long vacations, only quick trips that are 2-3 day weekends. Save long vacations for your honeymoon. There will be plenty of time for that after you are married!

I am very happy, blessed and grateful to have such an amazing husband of 10 incredible years! I would not be the Rules dating coach I am today without his devotion, unconditional love and support.

My husband spoils me, but it’s because I don’t spoil myself, I don’t pamper myself, I don’t buy myself things or go crazy with the credit card on shopping sprees.

Do you want to know how to have an enduring, committed Rules marriage, and a husband who treats you like a princess?

Being a Rules wife is not about being a spoiled, selfish, lazy, narcissistic and entitled princess.

It’s about having the humility, maturity, dignity, wisdom and responsibility to work hard and postpone immediate gratification to take care of long-term goals and future concerns for the family.

When you are busy working hard, being productive and not succumbing to laziness or self-indulgence, you will have a husband who supports you, encourages you, treats you like royalty and takes you on a cruise for your anniversary!

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If you want a happy marriage, then you must do The Rules, toss the habit of self-indulgence and practice a little self-denial.

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Will be sharing more Rules success stories when I get back! (And maybe some sob stories, too.)

While on the cruise, I may not have access to internet or emails. Will write back as soon as I return.

If you have a dating emergency and need immediate assistance, please contact Ellen Fein or Sherrie Schneider at www.TheRulesBook.com.

Have a great summer!

Happily married and helping women get to the altar faster.
Kim Evazians

Moving On Gets You the Ring!

A client I hadn’t heard from in a while called me for a consult on Wednesday. We spoke in May of last year when she had broken up with her on-again-off-again boyfriend of three years. It was a nonRules-y relationship with no proposal in sight, so she finally decided to say, “Next!”

Even though it was painful for her to move on, I encouraged her to go out dancing with her girlfriends at a country western bar. She was willing to go out and asked me for any tips. My last piece of advice to her was:

1. Look HOT!
2. Smile.
3. Let him initiate eye contact and approach you.
4. Have fun, but end everything first!

Well, a guy at the country western bar did approach her. She is now married to that guy!

It was totally Rules-y from the beginning and even though he chatted with her friends, he stayed and talked to her most of the night. Before leaving, he asked for her number. He fell in love with her fast and she never broke a single rule.

It’s funny, because she never once called me for a consult while dating her new husband. Zero.So I totally believe her when she said, “I never broke any rules,” because there were no problems, no drama and no consults. No news was good news!

But with her ex, she often called for consults because he would do things that triggered her insecurities. He would pull away, take long breaks saying he needed space and she never felt like things were progressing. It was a nonRules-y relationship that needed to end. So she finally said “Next!” to her ex and got the ring!

Felicia When her ex found out she got married through a friend, he had the nerve to contact her and say, “Well, you know I had the ring for you when you broke up with me… I never told you because I wanted to keep it a surprise.”

Well, I don’t believe it, because he didn’t put a ring on it! “All show, no go.” Ex-boyfriends will make up stuff like that just to guilt you and make you feel bad. Don’t fall for it.

I’m glad she dumped her ex and married a man who put his money where his mouth his. There is something to be said about putting a ring on your finger… And it didn’t take three years!

My client and her husband got married in April, bought a beautiful home in May and are now honeymooning in Playa del Carmen, Mexico as we speak! Congratulations to the happy newlyweds!

-If you have doubts about moving on from a nonRules-y relationship…
-If you are dating a guy off-and-on for three years with no proposal in sight…
-If he keeps pulling away, then makes empty promises, but nothing to show for it…

Then it’s time move on. Part of being a Rules Girls is having faith in The Rules and faith in yourself. Give up on the guy, but don’t give up on you. Letting go will set you free to meet someone new and better. LetThingsGoSoThere'sRoom

I know it’s hard to let go when there’s history and strong feelings. Sometimes you just don’t feel like going out dancing or dating others, but doing The Rules means learning to say, “Next” to a guy who was never going to marry you.

You deserve to  have a man who cares about you, respects you, loves you and wants to marry you.

My goal is to have a man come to you on bended knee with a ring. But to earn it, you must do The Rules.

The result of doing The Rules is marrying Mr. Right and getting the ring… Like my client!

I am very proud of her for moving on. Let me help you be the next Rules success story!

If you need advice, call me for a consultation: Consultation Request Form.

Happily married and helping women get to the altar faster!
Kim Evazians

Mission CUAO FAQ’s

PinkFAQThank you all for your interest in Mission CUAO!

I am thrilled and excited to see so many already signed up.

It shows me your level of dedication and commitment to being a Creature Unlike Any Other.

Congratulations on allocating your time and resources to investing in yourself!

You are worth it!

Due to several questions regarding the class, I compiled them into a summary FAQ bulletin on my blog.

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Q: Hi Kim! I have signed up and paid. Do I just need to be available via Skype at 8pm Central tomorrow?

A: Love your enthusiasm, but the first class starts May 15th!

Q: How many weeks does this course run for? And if we’ve signed up for the audio, do we get them in one go at the end of the course or week-by-week?

A: Initially, I proposed weekly classes, but once a month is more reasonable and realistic. Let’s see how the first class goes. The number of classes offered will be based on demand.

If you signed up for the audio, you will get it at the end of the course.

Q: Where is the location?

A: All classes are on Skype. To download Skype on your PC or mobile device, go to www.Skype.com.

Q: May we invite friends, or do they need to be former clients?

A: Yes, absolutely! Please invite your friends!

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Q: Dear Kim, Re: CUAO lesson, I got 2 invitations, both same day and same time: 15th May from 20 to 21.30 CDT. I understood that there are 2 sessions on 15th May, one at 3pm, and another at 10pm, each 1 hour. So I cannot understand… I booked the one of 15th May at 3pm… Please check, thanks.

A: I created two identical FB Event pages for The Rules Coach fans and my FB friends. The Rules Coach FB page is public (says “Get Tickets”).  The invitation from my personal FB profile is not public, but Invite-Only (says “Hosted by Kim Evazians”). For privacy, you can choose to join the Invite-Only event.

There will be 2 time slots the same day:
1) 3PM CST for UK and European time
2) 8PM CST for US and Asia Pacific time
Please indicate which time you will attend in the Wufoo form.

The duration is 1 hour.

You are registered for May 15th @3pm CST, so you are good to go!

Q: Hi Kim, I AM going to your “Mission CUAO” event, but my sweetie’s on FB and he checks everything I do or post, etc… Since he and I have not spoken about marriage… And I don’t want him to be able to read about this class! I noted it’s “public” so anyone can read about it, right? And if I’ve RSVP’d then he’ll be able to see that I have, right? He’s got me “starred” so anytime I’m ever on FB and he’s on at the same time, he can see what I’m liking or commenting on, even if he’s not friends with those folks! I’ll be there, but need to have my privacy about this one.

A: One is public (posted on Rules Coach fan page). One is private by Invite-Only (posted on my personal FB profile).

It is not required to RSVP on Facebook. To officially RSVP, you must submit Wufoo + PayPal. Don’t worry about FB.

To keep it “honest, but mysterious,” I omitted certain words on the FB event page.

Q: Are you going to have this on audio?

A: Of course!

Q: I always thought that MG – Time Stand Still – Peach Blossom are 3 different lectures… But now I am reading that this super lecture you are preparing is all 3 together?

A: Each lecture is a killer stand-alone course, not a combination.

Things You Should Know:
-To release the audios in a timely manner, audios will not edited, which means names will not be cut. Nobody knows who you are anyways. It’s just us girls!

-If you wish to remain anonymous, please mute your mic.

-If you opt out of participating, it may be difficult for me to answer your questions in detail. Without a dialogue, my answers may be limited. Help me help you!

-For questions regarding how to be a CUAO, please be specific and provide some background. What’s your story? Otherwise, I might make up my own story.

If you have further questions about this event, you know how to reach me.

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To sign up for Mission CUAO, please submit this form: https://rulescoach.wufoo.com/forms/mission-cuao/

Look forward to seeing you all May 15th!

Email Advice

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Great news!!!

Due to the overwhelming flood of emails I get asking for advice, I am now offering Email Consultations for $50 and Quick Questions for $25.

Call me old-fashioned, but I have always and still do believe that giving advice by phone or face-to-face is superior to emails.

Early on, I had set myself apart from all the other Rules dating coaches by giving advice in this manner because philosophically, I truly believe it is the best way to take care of my clients.

Hidden Aspects of Communication

There are hidden aspects of communication that cannot be adequately conveyed via text or email such as mood, care and concern, humor, laughter, flirtation, spunk, wit and cheek that are easily seen in person.

As much as 70% of what we communicate when talking directly with others is through eye contact, smiling, facial expressions, body language, pauses, gestures and the tone of voice.

Skype allows me to instruct and communicate far more effectively than the printed word.

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Giving relationship advice is a highly emotional and delicate process, and should be handled with utmost care.

Avoiding Miscommunication

Face-to-face dialogue can also prevent the wrong message from inadvertently being passed on, as often is the case in telephone call and even more so in a text.

How often have you experienced miscommunication or got into a fight with your boyfriend all because it started with a text?

How often did your feelings get hurt by a text or email?

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What is missing from texts is the tone of voice and the intent may often be misconstrued. Intent is conveyed not just by words alone, but how it is said.

I know too many couples who fight as a result of one misfired text.

The advantage of phone or Skype is you can stop to ask questions for clarity and get instant feedback.

The information I have to share in my consultations is so rich, intricate in meaning and full of subtle nuances that emails betray the quality and depth of my coaching. Texts do not do it justice.

The Option to Get Email Advice

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However, if you feel that emails are the best and most efficient way for me to help you, then I will happily honor your request.

Clients now have the option of getting email advice.

For $50, you can get me the phone or Skype for 1/2 hour, which is better than a $50 email consult. But an email consult is far better than none!

There may be times when you are just too busy to schedule a consultation or you are not in place that is quiet, private and convenient enough to talk.

Sometimes email is great for a particular situation, especially if we have already established familiarity and have a history of working together.

Or if you just prefer email, that’s fine, too.

Frequently Asked Questions:

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  1. A guy online texted: [fill-in-the-blank]. How do I close the deal within four exchanges?
  2. My crush just texted me: [fill-in-the-blank]. What do I write back?
  3. How do I respond if my ex is contacting me?
  4. 911! On a date and managed to escape to the ladies room. Please help!
  5. What if the guy is doing The Rules on me?
  6. How do I respond if a guy asks a date, but does not make concrete plans or confirm?
  7. I feel awkward texting. How do I reply with a seductive, flirty and witty banter?
  8. My guy texts me a lot, but he is not asking me for a date. What do I do?
  9. What if a guy keeps texting me for a photo? He has not even asked me for a date yet!
  10. What if a guy keeps asking me for last minute dates, then asks me, “When is good for you?”

If you have a 911 emergency text, I am available to help.

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How to Ask Me for Email Advice:

To request an email consultation, please submit the Wufoo form link and I will respond to everyone within 24-48 hours, including weekends and holidays.

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You have the choice of getting a lengthy, detailed Email Consultation that comes with one free follow-up email or a Quick Question.

  1. Email Consultation: https://rulescoach.wufoo.com/forms/email-consultation/
  2. Quick Question: https://rulescoach.wufoo.com/forms/quick-question/

In order to receive top priority and immediate attention, requests must be sent via Wufoo, not by email, text or Facebook.

Because I get hundreds of spam and emails daily, please use the Wufoo form link to get prompt and priority attention.

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If your request is not sent through Wufoo, it will likely be overlooked.

I wish I had a live, on-call dating coach at my fingertips back when I was young, clueless and still dating over a decade ago.

You now can have access to me as your virtual dating coach!

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