Special Announcement: As of September 1st, I am accepting new clients. This is my new booking link to pay and schedule your appointment: Advice By Kim.
Before booking, it is best to become familiar with my coaching philosophy. Please look into my audios e.g. Hold Your Mood, Mission CUAO, Wu Wei in the Workplace, Chili Peppers Are Hot Women Are Jealous, Seductive Texting, Erotic Power, etc… This is a diamond mine of material that will help you rank up in class and raise your perceived mate value in the dating market.
My coaching style is based on having a superior fundamental strategy. Too many people try to use thoughtless, short-sighted, empty-headed tactics that don’t work.
Don’t forget to buy your copy of The Rules books to learn basic Dating Rules 101.
All the Rules
The Rules for Online Dating
Not Your Mother’s Rules
Remember. Knowledge is power… But only if you get it in advance.
So much depends on that first impression. It takes less than 60 seconds for a man to form his lifelong opinion of you. After that, he will only look for proof that he was right. Therefore, it is life or death to do The Rules from the moment you meet.
This is me coaching clients Vader style…
I am your Mother… Together, we can rule the galaxy. May The Rules be with you.
Reaching out for coaching is an act of self-love. Who is looking out for you?
An endearing love note from a 28 yr old client–an impressive young lady from the Philippines who’s been saving up to work with me. (The girls in SE Asia call me Mrs. Kim).
She has a lot of guts to approach an American coach when English is not her first language and the exchange rate is 3-4 times.
I admire the fact that she isn’t afraid of my toughness. Instead, she feels protected, empowered, and blessed. I asked her, “What made you decide to book with me?”
She said, “What made me decide is you produced RESULTS. I wanna be the next successful story. I also learned that it is definitely not a walk in the park, it requires mental and emotional toughness. This is also the time that someone have seen and discovered the potential in me. I am just too blind and vague to see because of too much noise in my head and in my surroundings, it has greatly sacrificed my wellbeing. And I am very glad to have started the guts to pull myself out the situation and deal with the problem, and have faith in the universe while working with a heavenly mentor that produces ACTUAL RESULTS with clients who have happy endings.”
She is not calling me for dating advice but taking the time to invest herself right now. She used to feel self-pity but now her confidence is soaring.
When it came to my wishlist for Mr. Mc DreamBoat, I had one particular dealbreaker for me to consider a guy to be husband material. He needed to be able to build me a house from the ground up with his bare hands. Just like my Dad. Do you think that is unreasonable?
When I was 8 years old, my Dad built me a 2-story clubhouse in our backyard. He told me to draw it on paper and he will build it for me. So I went to school and used the computer paper with green and white stripes to draw my Mc DreamHouse.
Every girl needs a father to be the standard for which she will judge all other men.
Flash forward to my college years, I dated a guy who was 11 years older than me. I was 20 and he was 31. He was a pre-medical student who had his own construction company and did contract work building fireplaces, maintenance, and remodeling homes and offices. He could definitely build a house from the ground up with his bare hands.
After him, I dated guys who were well-to-do trust fund babies. Very handsome, clean, neat, well-spoken, well-mannered and well-dressed… But they couldn’t build a house. That will never do. I wanted a guy with a bit more manliness, ruggedness, and handy-ness. It was a real dealbreaker for me.
I did not want a soft man, a useless playboy or a Fed Bear who has been spoonfed and can do nothing for himself. I didn’t want a man child with no life skills.
I have a saying, “A Fed Bear is a dead bear.”
I wanted to marry a Conqueror type where there is nothing he cannot do… No problem he cannot solve… A guy who says, “For every problem, there is a solution.”
In my lifetime, I have been fortunate enough to know many men with this capability. One of them is my husband. Not only does he enjoy solving problems, but he also has a knack for coming up with ingenious and elegant solutions.
And yes, my husband can build anything with his bare hands–mechanical, plumbing, and electrical. When he was 5 years old, he took the VCR apart and completely dismantled it. All the parts and screws were laid out in a neat and orderly fashion so that he could remember how to put it back together. As a child, he was perfectly poised, self-directed and organized.
His parents never freaked out, never got mad, and never yelled at him for “breaking” the VCR. He didn’t break it. He was just a curious child who wanted to know how it worked, and the only way was to learn was to take it apart. After his curiosity was satisfied, he put the VCR back together and it still worked.
How many 5-year-olds do you know can do this? Most kids are kicking around in the sandbox at that age.
What is your Wishlist for Mr. Mc DreamBoat? What are your deal breakers?
Thanks to my Dad, I knew what was possible. He is the standard by which I judge all other men. I had a strategy for vetting Mr. Mc DreamBoat. I had unreasonably high standards. I never compromised. I was strict but successful, and ended up marrying the best husband ever.
Happy Father’s Day!
Kim Evazians The Strict But Successful Coach
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Since personal coaching is such a highly emotional, sensitive and delicate matter, and requires a lot of both financial, mental and emotional investment, I recommend taking the time to do your due diligence and research all the coaches who are available to you.
Find out about their personality, their communication style, their philosophy or way of life, their coaching methodology, and the quality of relationships they produce for their clients.
I say this partly because I am currently not available to take new clients who are not familiar with my philosophy. However, I do have audios available if you are interested in my work. They are a prerequisite for coaching with me.
Before booking a consult, you should know some things about me to see if we are well-suited to work together as a team. Yes, my success stories are pretty amazing but please understand that coaching is a long-term investment. Not something you do once or twice a year or every few years like a garage sale.
There are obligations a client must fulfill if they want to team up with a “power broker” to get amazing results. I work tirelessly and joyfully for my clients but I also expect them to carry their own weight. I am not a magic pill. I don’t believe in cutting corners and I don’t have magic fairy dust even though it feels like it sometimes.
I share this is because some people have an unrealistic expectation of me as the coach. They may think they can get piece-mealed advice by picking bits and pieces of tips they like from various different books, blogs or coaches who all have different philosophies. But then call me at the last minute as the last resort to fix a problem no one else can solve.
Coaching isn’t therapy.
I don’t work that way. I believe in doing things right the first time. For best results, I recommend calling me before you even start dating for a superior strategy. This will help you get ahead of the curve by having a clear game plan: knowing what’s powerful, what’s not powerful, what to expect and how to avoid future threats.
Coaching is intended to avoid broken rules, not fixing them.
When you start dating, call me during the Critical Window (the first 30 days) and the first 3 dates. This is when it matters most. A man will know within this time frame if this relationship has serious long-term potential. Past that point, you have written your future and there’s nothing I can do about it.
I believe in making a powerful first impression. It’s the only one you will ever get.
For efficiency’s sake, I have posted a snapshot of my personality profile, Tritype 835 “The Solution Master.” While visiting Japan, I met a Japanese Rules Coach (thanks to The Rules authors, Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider) who introduced the Enneagram to me. It’s a Christian-based archetype system. I suggest taking the test to find your Enneagram type for your own personal growth. It will not only help you with personal mastery but also help you learn to appreciate other types as well. Here’s me in a nutshell.
Description of Tritype 835 by Enneagram Coach Katherine LeFauvre:
“The 835 Tritype Archetype, ‘The Solution Master.’ This Tritype is a dynamic achiever and power broker… But is also often misunderstood.
From the outside, the 835 Tritype may seem like a brash, confident and success-driven achiever that does not suffer fools gladly. They can appear to be tough-minded individuals that can easily call a spade a spade but can also come across as stony and insensitive.
This is true in part because the 835s are street-wise and believe in the school of hard knocks. They believe that one learns the most by doing. And, they think that the best lessons in life are learned by having to do things the hard way.
The 835 is known for being strategically brilliant but also for being blunt and to the point. Their inner drive is to succeed and conqueror They do this by using their mind over matter approach to life and innate ability to quickly size up the competition or situation at hand. They begin by setting their sites on something that is of interest to them and then developing and ultimately executing the plans needed to acquire it. This is achieved through farsightedness, that includes step by step analysis and planning.
They are also known for being impersonal and unemotional. In truth, for the 835, everything is very personal. They see life as one giant chess game that they intend to win through mastery.
But that is only part of the story.
They succeed not because they do not have emotions but rather because they are not limited by emotions. The 835 can separate their emotions from any issue at hand, which can at times be confusing to some of the more tender-hearted Tritypes like the 269 and 379, 469 all of whom use their emotions to make decisions. In fact, they believe that emotions are what are confusing and limiting… And only serve to slow them down.
835s focus on the long game and have very little use for ignorance. They are demanding of themselves and others. They are natural entrepreneurs and generally achieve whatever they set out to do. They seek and can readily identify the competitive advantage in any area of life… Whether in business, sports or love. They will always have or will readily develop a strategy for success.
Their main focus in life is to achieve the realization of their ambitions. They do this by enduring and overcoming adversity. They never give up and do not back down or give in. Setbacks become fuel for future endeavors. Failures pave the way for greater successes.
They are no-nonsense people that value experience over titles or degrees. They are extremely hard workers that are hard-driving and self-motivated. They can be seen as work-a-holics but they truly love whatever they do or they would stop doing it. They are what they achieve.
An important part of the story is that the 835s are actually thinkers and doers rather than feelers. Underneath their logical solution mastery is a tender-hearted person that manages distress by doing something to fix a problem rather being trapped in what feels like illogical emotional chaos. The truth is that the 835 is uncomfortable with emotions; both their own emotions and the emotions of others. This is because they value data and information and fail to see the data and information that emotions provide.
835s have a defense strategy that survives by learning from their experiences so that they can succeed the next time they face the same problem. Emotionally charged experiences that result in feelings of shame and humiliation leave strongest impressions. As a result, these are the areas of life that the 835s wish to conqueror first. And these are the first lessons the 835s want to teach loved ones.
835s do not want anyone they care about to suffer or be disadvantaged because their loved one is mired in an emotional crisis or emotional paralysis. They vividly remember the times they felt debilitated because their own emotions got in the way of affirmation action. As a result, 835s prefer the power that comes from action and mental constructs even at the expense of their emotions. They are naturally more adept using their will center and mental center. They see their ability to go into action and use a mind over matter approach to life as much more reliable than the inconstancy of the heart. They prefer the world of logic and thoughts, and actions and willfulness over the world of feelings and emotions. So, instead of offering sympathy, they offer strategies.
They respect those that overcome obstacles. And, they admire those that develop the confidence that ensues as a result of overcoming adversity. They want their loved ones to learn how to provide for themselves so that they will have the confidence and know-how that comes from having to fail before you can succeed. So, they show love by teaching them how to provide for themselves and/or by providing resources for those in their circle of care rather than offering sentiment. But more specifically, they demonstrate love by teaching loved ones how to survive and make it on their own no matter what life throws at them.”
I give my clients strategy not sympathy.
Hope this helps you understand me better. My coaching isn’t for everyone but if you feel I am the right coach for you, then the next steps would be get these 2 audio lectures before booking and listen to them: Hold Your Mood and Mission CUAO. They are the foundation to building a new identity with me.
The summary of your life as it is now, all the important decisions you will ever make, and how people treat you rests on your identity.
What I do works because it is foundational and built of quality components for lasting success. Giving you a quick answer will never solve a long-term problem.
If your foundation is weak, flawed, or corrupt, applying plaster won’t help.
Kim Evazians The Strict But Successful Coach
Work with Kim: Advice by appointment. All questions must be submitted via Wufoo Form.
The world is full of lazy, undisciplined, self-entitled people who just want a free lunch to go. Everyone wants the rewards without doing the work… Or ride the gravy train of “Highly Accomplished People.” It’s human nature. People are predictable.
Someone sent me these social media templates to inform me that another Rules Coach is copying me. It has a striking similarity but a completely different vibe. Definitely not from the same tribe.
I don’t care if people copy me. It just means they can’t make their next move until I make mine first.
The problem with copying someone like me is that I have a slavishly inhuman work ethic. I am fluid and constantly reinventing myself… I am inimitable.
Which means whoever copies me will always be behind the curve. But at least they have goals.
Here is a testimonial from a young “soul student” yesterday making an astute observation about my practices after listening to two Modern Geisha Mastery audios: Chili Peppers Are Hot, Women Are Jealous and Wu Wei at Work.
She had booked a consult for non-rules related issues like feeling insecure, jealous, and envious of others when it comes to work accomplishments. She was asking me for career advice.
I told her it was natural and to use her feelings in a constructive way to better herself. I assured her that she does not need to feel like a bad person for having these feelings.
She loves the Modern Geisha philosophy. It is a graceful way of life. She feels honored to be among the “vital few” personally mentored by me and wonders how I hold my mood.
Being a Modern Geisha is about sculpting your mind and your life in the pursuit of mastery by becoming an apprentice or disciple.
Dear Mrs. Kim, I just finished listening to the Wu Wei and Chili Pepper audio. It is so relevant to my current situation and feelings. So thankful. ️I am honored to be part of MG teachings…
By giving priority consults to limited and past clients, this shows quality over quantity. Not collecting clients or collecting FB friends like others…
Making sure to give advice that is based on the clients’ personality… And many more! This makes me appreciate you more as my mentor…
I am actually curious personally on how you are able to control your mood.
Modern Geisha Aspirant
How do I control my mood? The quick answer is…
I had the privilege of being trained by my mentor to be in the Top 1%. I only focus on honing my craft and working with the educated elite. I don’t worry what the Bottom 99% is doing. They are irrelevant. But I’m glad my students are smart enough to see the glaringly obvious truth.
(The Top 1% are trend leaders. The Bottom 99% are followers. They are always watching the Top 1% to see what they are doing and may try to copy but lack the ethics to produce Top 1% results.)
When another coach copies me, they are just telling the whole world they are unoriginal, mentally lazy, and AMATEUR.
Most importantly, they think I’m the best. No one copies a loser. Do they?
How can I be angry? I hope everyone copies me.
It’s different from being just a follower because a coach is supposed to be a thought leader. People follow coaches because they have something unique, powerful, and valuable to offer.
A Modern Geisha is a trend leader, not a follower. In Japan, whatever kimono pattern or colors a geisha was seen wearing in season, all the wives would copy and follow. After all, geishas are admired and revered as the “artistic imperial rockstars.”
If people aren’t copying you, it means you’re not doing enough. Get cracking. You’re slacking.
When people copy me, it means I’m RELEVANT.
It tells me that I have successfully influenced the culture.
Any monkey can copy but not everyone can INFLUENCE.
Would you rather be a copycat or an influencer?
Kim Evazians The Strict But Successful Coach
Work with Kim: Advice by appointment. All questions must be submitted via Wufoo Form.