Success Story

Rules Breaker to Mrs

Former Rules Breaker Turned Success Story

When you first read The Rules, did you think they were outdated? Ridiculous? Laughable? Did you try to follow them but ended up totally disenchanted and almost gave up?

Eventually, all the other naysayers come to me. I’ve taken the toughest “hard to crack” cases and turned them into amazing success stories. The right mentor can revolutionize your life.

Naysayers are now believers. Rules Breakers are now happily married–and coaching!

Wife, Mother, Rules Coach, United Kingdom

For example, Debbie broke every rule. Even the ones not in the book! If you knew her whole story, you might say her case was hopeless. It took a lot of humility, dignity, maturity, and willingness to invest in herself. With patience, coaching, and changing her behavior over time, she got the ring!

Many of you will have a natural rebellion against The Rules. My clients intuitively felt that the Modern Geisha philosophy was more inherently suited to their learning style. Be like water, for water always finds a way.

Even the biggest Rules Breaker can be a success story!

Originally, she did not call me for dating advice. She was already working with another Rules Coach at that time. She called me for work advice! Even though I don’t advertise myself as a career coach.

Incidentally, she found my Modern Geisha audios first e.g. “Hold Your Mood” and “Wu Wei for the Workplace.” After listening to them, applying them and seeing how effective they were at managing her work relationships, she decided to book a consultation with me.

She was already living with her boyfriend for 8 years when she contacted me for her first consult. Within 18 months, she got a proposal which she thought would never happen!

Read her amazing testimony. I laughed out loud when she said she “binge-read” all of my Modern Geisha blogs! LOL…

Debbie said: “When I met my boyfriend 8 years ago, I read The Rules over and over again until it was practically burned into my memory. However, my behavior up until then was the exact opposite of what The Rules advises. 

When I read it the first time I thought it was a joke, but then my mind starting working on it and I realized Ellen and Sherrie were right, I could suddenly see all at once why my past relationships had gone awry. But even when I met my boyfriend I struggled, but I probably did 70% better and I always attributed the success of our relationship to The Rules that I did manage to follow! So it was a massive improvement.

But somewhere along the way, I became disenchanted by The Rules (maybe after a couple of years of being with my boyfriend), I thought they were manipulative and gave them up. But I was wrong and early this year I started doing The Rules again along with Kim Evazians’ teachings. I got The Rules at a deeper level, thanks to Kim who inspired me with “Hold Your Mood.” 

My reason for telling you this is that my relationship has improved every day since I restarted The Rules.  As I said, now you could choose to break them and I certainly broke a lot of them and am practicing improving every day and am in no doubt that I still break them, but when you follow them with the right heart and understand the underlying principles and strategies as Kim puts it rather than tactics you are rewarded with positive outcomes.

I found Kim on The Rules Book website’s list of Certified Rules Coaches back in 2013. I binge-read all of Kim’s blog and found her audios. I think the first one I purchased was ‘Hold Your Mood to Hold Your Man’. Kim’s teachings were very powerful and that came over both in her writing and in her MP3s, I knew I wanted to work with Kim. 

The first coaching sessions I had with Kim were work-related. I knew Kim was the one to help me with these work-related issues despite the fact she is a love coach primarily. I purchased Kim’s ‘Wu Wei in the Work Place’ – Kim’s teachings were special, unusual and powerful, I knew she was the coach for me.”

A man will consider you for marriage when you learn how to manage yourself first.

If you want to my next success story, do what Debbie did.

Success Story

I Said Yes

On this day, he asked, “Will you marry me?”

I had just turned 26 years old 2 weeks before on August 1st. It was the weekend right before I started my new job teaching high school physics in a small town called Grandview, Texas.

Every Saturday, I had church choir practice at 4:00pm so I was busy all the time. Hardly had a spare moment. I don’t know how he managed to make it happen, but no matter what was going on, my husband was very well-organized and a good planner. The best part was he always knew how to keep everything hidden to make sure it a surprise.

He was very impressed that I was in such an agreeable mood that day. I said, “Okay” to everything he asked. Without asking any questions. Nor did it seem like I suspected anything. I did not seem anxious or worried at all. I was perfectly poised in my feminine power. I trusted him. Completely.

He was leading me to a surprise romantic proposal and it happened because I let go. For the first time, I had no idea what was going on and I was okay with that. I was totally calm, relaxed, and maintained my feminine poise. Because no matter what, I am sure of myself and I trusted him.

My husband originally wanted to take me on a special trip somewhere. But we had already taken 6 trips to Chicago for family funerals and weddings. It was like everyone decided to get married all at once that year! There was no time. The ring was ready and he could not wait. On this day, he proposed and I said, “Yes.”

I secretly had a deadline in my mind to be married by 25 and got engaged two weeks after turning 26. Of course, I never told him until just a couple of years ago. He was shocked at how I could keep something secret for so long. That’s keeping the mystery. It was a private deadline I made before I met him and never told anyone.

Considering the fact that my husband never knew my secret timeline, his timing was impeccable.

As women, we have to respect that a man’s timing for the proposal is not within our control. If you had heard my husband’s story and everything he had to go through to get the ring, you would be sweet, understanding and patient. Planning the perfect proposal takes a lot of work, coordination and time.

Everything worked out so smoothly because I was patient with him and maintained my feminine poise. Do not suffer like mere mortals by being impatient or in a hurry. Act as if you have all the time in the world.

“Patience is the supreme virtue of the gods who have nothing but time.”

-Robert Greene

When you practice patience, you are the Divine Feminine standing in your own power and the Divine Masculine will follow.

Male Universe

Masculine Insecurity Is Real

Masculine insecurity is a real issue due to their hardwiring and inner child wounds.

It’s not something you should just write off like, “Oh, he’s just insecure!” and use that to shame men for your relationship problems. So you take the focus off of you and blame it all on them. That is being insensitive, inconsiderate and self-absorbed.

You must learn how to do your part and do it graciously and lovingly. All relationships are your mirror. You don’t live in a vacuum. Men react to your actions. Therefore, how a man treats you tells me how well you are (or not) doing The Rules.

Take responsibility for everything you create in your life because the Divine Feminine leads on an emotional and spiritual level. (Yes, The Rules Books does say that women carry the emotional burden of the relationship, not the man.)

The male ego is ultra sensitive, fragile and should be handled with care. You can help a man feel more secure is by doing The Rules as a daily, consistent way of life in ALL your relationships, not just with men. But mostly on YOURSELF.

A man needs a woman who is sweet, gracious and respectful while standing in her own power, her supreme femininity. Not a loud, bossy, controlling, power-obsessed woman who is disrespectful of his masculinity.

Healthy boundaries, self-control and Holding Your Mood is always classy and ATTRACTIVE.

Doing The Rules brings out the best in you and in your man.

If you are too self-absorbed, emotionally heavy or resentful of men “being men,” then relationships are NOT for you.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

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Modern Geisha

Life Strategies for Toxic People

While many people may give the appearance of being nice and friendly to you, deep under the surface, they are covertly toxic and destructive. 

Clients often call me for tactics on how to deal with their endless daily battles with toxic people.

For your own sanity, develop the ability to quickly recognize them and learn how to let them go.

Toxic people can prevent you from reaching your true potential. And they will do it at any cost.

I created the Modern Geisha philosophy to help women develop soul beauty, poise, and supreme femininity throughout their daily walk in life by writing this mantra:

A Modern Geisha is always moving in a good mood… She is always calm, beautiful, serene, happy, grateful and unperturbed.

Therefore, it is crucial to guard your serenity. Never allow anyone or anything to pollute your aura by allowing them to drag you into their emotional chaos.

Toxic people will put you in a bad mood. Walk away. Maintain your frame. So much depends on your ability to hold your mood.

To become a true Modern Geisha, you must embody supreme calmness under stress, elegant thinking, emotional stability, and mature order. This also means having healthy boundaries and the strength to let them go.

Due to the overwhelming amount of fan mail I get from beloved followers who have found my Modern Geisha audios and told me how much it has changed their life, I’m bringing back the Modern Geisha philosophy.

It is a more elegant way of being and a “refined system of education.”

Modern Geisha is the heart and soul of my teachings. It comes from “soul knowledge,” not by a book.

I am currently focusing on redeveloping and strengthening what I started in 2011-2013 when I was a baby coach.

All my best and original material was created back then. Thanks to all my “soul clients” who kept following me and would not let it go.

How to follow my Modern Geisha posts:
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MG Instagram:

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Modern Geisha

Copycat vs. Influencer

The world is full of lazy, undisciplined, self-entitled people who just want a free lunch to go. Everyone wants the rewards without doing the work… Or ride the gravy train of “Highly Accomplished People.” It’s human nature. People are predictable.

Someone sent me these social media templates to inform me that another Rules Coach is copying me. It has a striking similarity but a completely different vibe. Definitely not from the same tribe.

Bottom 99% (left) vs. Top 1% (right)

I don’t care if people copy me. It just means they can’t make their next move until I make mine first.

The problem with copying someone like me is that I have a slavishly inhuman work ethic. I am fluid and constantly reinventing myself… I am inimitable.

Which means whoever copies me will always be behind the curve. But at least they have goals.

Here is a testimonial from a young “soul student” yesterday making an astute observation about my practices after listening to two Modern Geisha Mastery audios: Chili Peppers Are Hot, Women Are Jealous and Wu Wei at Work.

She had booked a consult for non-rules related issues like feeling insecure, jealous, and envious of others when it comes to work accomplishments. She was asking me for career advice.

I told her it was natural and to use her feelings in a constructive way to better herself. I assured her that she does not need to feel like a bad person for having these feelings.

She loves the Modern Geisha philosophy. It is a graceful way of life. She feels honored to be among the “vital few” personally mentored by me and wonders how I hold my mood.

Being a Modern Geisha is about sculpting your mind and your life in the pursuit of mastery by becoming an apprentice or disciple.

Dear Mrs. Kim, I just finished listening to the Wu Wei and Chili Pepper audio. It is so relevant to my current situation and feelings. So thankful. ️I am honored to be part of MG teachings…

By giving priority consults to limited and past clients, this shows quality over quantity. Not collecting clients or collecting FB friends like others…

Making sure to give advice that is based on the clients’ personality… And many more! This makes me appreciate you more as my mentor…

I am actually curious personally on how you are able to control your mood.

Modern Geisha Aspirant

How do I control my mood? The quick answer is…

I had the privilege of being trained by my mentor to be in the Top 1%. I only focus on honing my craft and working with the educated elite. I don’t worry what the Bottom 99% is doing. They are irrelevant. But I’m glad my students are smart enough to see the glaringly obvious truth.

(The Top 1% are trend leaders. The Bottom 99% are followers. They are always watching the Top 1% to see what they are doing and may try to copy but lack the ethics to produce Top 1% results.)

When another coach copies me, they are just telling the whole world they are unoriginal, mentally lazy, and AMATEUR.

Most importantly, they think I’m the best. No one copies a loser. Do they?

How can I be angry? I hope everyone copies me.

It’s different from being just a follower because a coach is supposed to be a thought leader. People follow coaches because they have something unique, powerful, and valuable to offer.

A Modern Geisha is a trend leader, not a follower. In Japan, whatever kimono pattern or colors a geisha was seen wearing in season, all the wives would copy and follow. After all, geishas are admired and revered as the “artistic imperial rockstars.”

If people aren’t copying you, it means you’re not doing enough. Get cracking. You’re slacking.

When people copy me, it means I’m RELEVANT.

It tells me that I have successfully influenced the culture.

Any monkey can copy but not everyone can INFLUENCE.

Would you rather be a copycat or an influencer?

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

Work with Kim: Advice by appointment. All questions must be submitted via Wufoo Form.

Modern Geisha

Creating Your Identity

What does “Modern Geisha” mean to you?

A Japanese geisha was highly educated and beautifully groomed to be the perfect companion to the Alpha Male (emperor, feudal lord, samurai) and the imperial ruling class of the Floating World.

I created the Modern Geisha philosophy to help women develop soul beauty, poise, and supreme femininity throughout their daily walk in life.

A Modern Geisha is always moving in a good mood. She is always calm, beautiful, happy, serene, grateful and unperturbed.


As far as I’m concerned, being a Modern Geisha isn’t about dating. It’s about feminine power.

It’s having an elegant code of ethics that will enable you to live a graceful, moral, and dignified way of life.

Getting the ring is once but power is forever…

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Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

How to Work with Kim: Advice by appointment only. Please do not email unless if you are a client and I am requesting information for an upcoming consult. Due to the constant overload of emails, I am unable to answer any questions that are not booked and paid for through my website. To book a consult, please submit a Wufoo form. Thank you for your cooperation in this matter.