Success Story

He Proposed in 10 Months

He proposed. She said, “Yes!”

I just received a lovely thank you letter from a 26-year-old Rules Girl. She said thanks to the advice on my Facebook fanpage, she got engaged in 10 months!

Sound too good to be true? Believe it. Read her testimony. She found me through a FB group where Mrs. Kim of BupBe introduced me and shared my advice.

In her letter, she wrote: “Thank you, Mrs. Evazians. After 10 months of dating, my Mr. Right asked me the big question in a romantic tea room. Thanks for your advices on fanpage.

He proposed in a tea room in District 3, Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

He loves me more than I love him. So I have enough good feelings, time to love myself and reason to think and say what he wants to hear, and absolutely it’s helpful to me. Hard to catch, but easy to stay with. Best wishes for you and your family.”

I asked her, “What advice was most helpful to you?”

She said, “I’m so impressive your slogans ‘Strict But Successful,’ marry with a man loves me more than I love him, don’t move in without a ring…

I read a post, ‘The Good Husband’ on your website [advicebykim] and especially, ‘I will be happily married, no plan B.’ It’s very helpful for me!

I began to learn how to love myself, how to heal my soul, because I’m depressional person.

And now, after I followed The Rules, your fanpage, Mrs. Kim and read many books to update myself, I’m better and have more positive thinkings. You can share my photo… Many thank you!”

If you’re serious about getting married and want to be personally coached in my “Strict But Successful” style, I recently announced that in September that I am now taking new clients.

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Success Story

Rules Breaker to Mrs

Former Rules Breaker Turned Success Story

When you first read The Rules, did you think they were outdated? Ridiculous? Laughable? Did you try to follow them but ended up totally disenchanted and almost gave up?

Eventually, all the other naysayers come to me. I’ve taken the toughest “hard to crack” cases and turned them into amazing success stories. The right mentor can revolutionize your life.

Naysayers are now believers. Rules Breakers are now happily married–and coaching!

Wife, Mother, Rules Coach, United Kingdom

For example, Debbie broke every rule. Even the ones not in the book! If you knew her whole story, you might say her case was hopeless. It took a lot of humility, dignity, maturity, and willingness to invest in herself. With patience, coaching, and changing her behavior over time, she got the ring!

Many of you will have a natural rebellion against The Rules. My clients intuitively felt that the Modern Geisha philosophy was more inherently suited to their learning style. Be like water, for water always finds a way.

Even the biggest Rules Breaker can be a success story!

Originally, she did not call me for dating advice. She was already working with another Rules Coach at that time. She called me for work advice! Even though I don’t advertise myself as a career coach.

Incidentally, she found my Modern Geisha audios first e.g. “Hold Your Mood” and “Wu Wei for the Workplace.” After listening to them, applying them and seeing how effective they were at managing her work relationships, she decided to book a consultation with me.

She was already living with her boyfriend for 8 years when she contacted me for her first consult. Within 18 months, she got a proposal which she thought would never happen!

Read her amazing testimony. I laughed out loud when she said she “binge-read” all of my Modern Geisha blogs! LOL…

Debbie said: “When I met my boyfriend 8 years ago, I read The Rules over and over again until it was practically burned into my memory. However, my behavior up until then was the exact opposite of what The Rules advises. 

When I read it the first time I thought it was a joke, but then my mind starting working on it and I realized Ellen and Sherrie were right, I could suddenly see all at once why my past relationships had gone awry. But even when I met my boyfriend I struggled, but I probably did 70% better and I always attributed the success of our relationship to The Rules that I did manage to follow! So it was a massive improvement.

But somewhere along the way, I became disenchanted by The Rules (maybe after a couple of years of being with my boyfriend), I thought they were manipulative and gave them up. But I was wrong and early this year I started doing The Rules again along with Kim Evazians’ teachings. I got The Rules at a deeper level, thanks to Kim who inspired me with “Hold Your Mood.” 

My reason for telling you this is that my relationship has improved every day since I restarted The Rules.  As I said, now you could choose to break them and I certainly broke a lot of them and am practicing improving every day and am in no doubt that I still break them, but when you follow them with the right heart and understand the underlying principles and strategies as Kim puts it rather than tactics you are rewarded with positive outcomes.

I found Kim on The Rules Book website’s list of Certified Rules Coaches back in 2013. I binge-read all of Kim’s blog and found her audios. I think the first one I purchased was ‘Hold Your Mood to Hold Your Man’. Kim’s teachings were very powerful and that came over both in her writing and in her MP3s, I knew I wanted to work with Kim. 

The first coaching sessions I had with Kim were work-related. I knew Kim was the one to help me with these work-related issues despite the fact she is a love coach primarily. I purchased Kim’s ‘Wu Wei in the Work Place’ – Kim’s teachings were special, unusual and powerful, I knew she was the coach for me.”

A man will consider you for marriage when you learn how to manage yourself first.

If you want to my next success story, do what Debbie did.

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I Said Yes

On this day, he asked, “Will you marry me?”

I had just turned 26 years old 2 weeks before on August 1st. It was the weekend right before I started my new job teaching high school physics in a small town called Grandview, Texas.

Every Saturday, I had church choir practice at 4:00pm so I was busy all the time. Hardly had a spare moment. I don’t know how he managed to make it happen, but no matter what was going on, my husband was very well-organized and a good planner. The best part was he always knew how to keep everything hidden to make sure it a surprise.

He was very impressed that I was in such an agreeable mood that day. I said, “Okay” to everything he asked. Without asking any questions. Nor did it seem like I suspected anything. I did not seem anxious or worried at all. I was perfectly poised in my feminine power. I trusted him. Completely.

He was leading me to a surprise romantic proposal and it happened because I let go. For the first time, I had no idea what was going on and I was okay with that. I was totally calm, relaxed, and maintained my feminine poise. Because no matter what, I am sure of myself and I trusted him.

My husband originally wanted to take me on a special trip somewhere. But we had already taken 6 trips to Chicago for family funerals and weddings. It was like everyone decided to get married all at once that year! There was no time. The ring was ready and he could not wait. On this day, he proposed and I said, “Yes.”

I secretly had a deadline in my mind to be married by 25 and got engaged two weeks after turning 26. Of course, I never told him until just a couple of years ago. He was shocked at how I could keep something secret for so long. That’s keeping the mystery. It was a private deadline I made before I met him and never told anyone.

Considering the fact that my husband never knew my secret timeline, his timing was impeccable.

As women, we have to respect that a man’s timing for the proposal is not within our control. If you had heard my husband’s story and everything he had to go through to get the ring, you would be sweet, understanding and patient. Planning the perfect proposal takes a lot of work, coordination and time.

Everything worked out so smoothly because I was patient with him and maintained my feminine poise. Do not suffer like mere mortals by being impatient or in a hurry. Act as if you have all the time in the world.

“Patience is the supreme virtue of the gods who have nothing but time.”

-Robert Greene

When you practice patience, you are the Divine Feminine standing in your own power and the Divine Masculine will follow.

Success Story

Choose Your Coach

Choosing the right coach is crucial to your success. We all need role models and mentors guide us, protect us, and show us the correct way. My method is known to be “strict but successful.” Clients may not always like my advice, but they LOVE the results!

When I asked my client, “Why did you choose me out of all the coaches in The Rules directory?” She said:

What stood out about you on The Rules website was your description of who you are and what you do. When you wrote how you were “VERY happily married,” it peaked my interest! I’m being honest here! That and something just told me to select you. I was somehow automatically drawn to you. It was the best decision I’ve ever made!

I would recommend you because you are always clear and upfront. Sometimes what you had to say wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but definitely NEEDED to hear! That and there’s a kind of mystique you have because you have such an interesting and unique story.

-Miss to Mrs Success Story

The books are not enough because they were written to be “moderate for the masses.” A paperback product scaled to millions will never be as strict and precise as personal coaching with a “highly accomplished teacher,” someone who is already where you want to be and has a proven track record of helping others do the same. Consistently. Over time.

“Nothing feels as good as a tailor fitted dress.” -Kim Evazians

The difference between learning by a book and getting mentored by a coach is like ordering cafeteria style food versus a 5-star bistro. Or like buying a dresses off the rack versus a bespoke tailor shop that’s made to measure.

Personal coaching does what books can ever do. It helps you achieve what you never could have on your own.

“Through an intense person-to-person interaction, you absorb a way that contains great power and can be adapted to your individual spirit. Choose the mentor who best fits your needs and connects you to your Life’s Task.”

-Mastery, Robert Greene

I do not give cookie-cutter advice. I do not rely solely on The Rules Books to counsel clients. I have years of experience, a serious track record of success stories and overwhelming proof. I use my gifted intuition with men and do not give the same advice to two people in the same situation. Do you know why?

Each one of you was born special and unique. This uniqueness is marked genetically in your DNA. You are a one-time Creature Unlike Any Other in the universe. No one else is like you… And never will be.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

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It Took So Long

Congratulations to the newlyweds! Welcome to the Mrs. Club!

Dear Kim, It took me so long to see the difference between Rules men and non-Rules men. I hope your clients learn to see the difference, too… I owe so much to you, Kim!!! Just the books alone I don’t think were enough for me. I needed a living, breathing embodiment of The Rules and being a CUAO such as yourself to learn from!

-Miss to Mrs Success Story

It took her a long time to learn, but she made it! She’s married. Everyone needs their own time to learn The Rules. She never gave up on coaching with me. She worked closely with me from the moment she met Mr. Right and called me during the Critical Window, throughout their relationship, and even after the engagement.

She followed me all over the world wherever I traveled with my husband. When things got difficult, confusing or weird, she called me for advice. #CallKimNotHim

I was strict and tough but she never flinched. Never took it personally or complained about how it was hard to hear. She was happy and grateful for the truth. She would rather me scold her privately than to go out into the world making moronic blunders.

She went from being dumped by a broker loser living with his Mom and delivering vegetables to a marrying lawyer who is successful and stable in his career.

It’s been a wondrous journey of truth and transformation.

Ever since she met me, she had always dreamed of being one of my success stories and is happy to share her wedding photos.

Rules by rote isn’t enough. The key to doing The Rules is to make it seem like you’re not.

The books give you the vocabulary but only an accomplished teacher can show you a way of being that is alluring, intriguing, and captivating. This can only be taught in a person-to-person manner through role modeling techniques.

You must project that aura of femininity that seems to come out of your pores in an effortless, uncontrived way… As if you were born with it.

We all need role models who can help us achieve things we could never do on our own.

Coaching is that sacred space where I share my energy and natural talents.

The most powerful gift I can ever give to my clients is the aura of supreme feminine poise, quiet confidence, and deep self-belief.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Success Story

Our Time

On this day, we said, “I do.”

Today is our 19th wedding anniversary. I am writing this blog in honor of my husband.

I am so thankful and supremely blessed to be married to a man so devoted to the idea of romantic love and believes in putting his wife first, above all else, including himself.

He learned this from his father, who was his role model for the ideal husband. His father was so devoted to his mother, he put her above everyone else, including his kids until the day she died.

If you ever wonder why your married girlfriends drop off or don’t make you a priority, please do not feel hurt, resentful or take it personally.

A married woman has obligations and commitments to her family. Her husband comes first. Everything else comes after, including children.

This is why we never had kids. We did not want to share our time and attention with anyone else but each other.

It was our second year of marriage that my husband wrote this to me expressing his ideal vision and wish for our marriage as newlyweds.

May this serve as a gentle reminder for both newlyweds and wives who have been married a long time to honor their commitments.

Quality time is one of my husband’s primary love languages. It is also the most valuable commodity on earth.

Togetherness was so important to him that doing nothing together was more important than doing something apart.

“Our Time”

Make it a point to honor and respect the time we share. Among all the hours in the day, consciously plan your day such that you won’t stomp on “our time.”

Make it a point to communicate if you regrettably can’t fulfill your commitment to be present for “our time.”

After all, if you can’t make it, you owe it to your spouse to free them of their obligation for that hour, evening, day, etc… So that they may do something else in that time.

The time we share is the reason to live. It is LIFE.

It is more important to DO NOTHING TOGETHER than to do something apart.

It’s not that you don’t have enough time in life to get things done…

It’s very unfortunate that we only have at most a few hours of “our time” a day to actually live.

Everything we do is for our LIFE TOGETHER.

Stomping on this is putting things ahead of life.

Raman Evazians

If you want your relationship to be a success story, then follow my strict but successful dating advice:

“Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.”

Sound too good to be true? Believe it. I’m living proof. So are clients who called me and got the ring.

If you are serious about getting that all-important proposal, I look forward to working with you.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.