Miss to Mrs

Choose Your Coach

Choosing the right coach is crucial to your success. We all need role models and mentors guide us, protect us, and show us the correct way. My method is known to be “strict but successful.” Clients may not always like my advice, but they LOVE the results!

When I asked my client, “Why did you choose me out of all the coaches in The Rules directory?” She said:

What stood out about you on The Rules website was your description of who you are and what you do. When you wrote how you were “VERY happily married,” it peaked my interest! I’m being honest here! That and something just told me to select you. I was somehow automatically drawn to you. It was the best decision I’ve ever made!

I would recommend you because you are always clear and upfront. Sometimes what you had to say wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but definitely NEEDED to hear! That and there’s a kind of mystique you have because you have such an interesting and unique story.

-Miss to Mrs Success Story

The books are not enough because they were written to be “moderate for the masses.” A paperback product scaled to millions will never be as strict and precise as personal coaching with a “highly accomplished teacher,” someone who is already where you want to be and has a proven track record of helping others do the same. Consistently. Over time.

“Nothing feels as good as a tailor fitted dress.” -Kim Evazians

The difference between learning by a book and getting mentored by a coach is like ordering cafeteria style food versus a 5-star bistro. Or like buying a dresses off the rack versus a bespoke tailor shop that’s made to measure.

Personal coaching does what books can ever do. It helps you achieve what you never could have on your own.

“Through an intense person-to-person interaction, you absorb a way that contains great power and can be adapted to your individual spirit. Choose the mentor who best fits your needs and connects you to your Life’s Task.”

-Mastery, Robert Greene

I do not give cookie-cutter advice. I do not rely solely on The Rules Books to counsel clients. I have years of experience, a serious track record of success stories and overwhelming proof. I use my gifted intuition with men and do not give the same advice to two people in the same situation. Do you know why?

Each one of you was born special and unique. This uniqueness is marked genetically in your DNA. You are a one-time Creature Unlike Any Other in the universe. No one else is like you… And never will be.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Miss to Mrs

It Took So Long

Congratulations to the newlyweds! Welcome to the Mrs. Club!

Dear Kim, It took me so long to see the difference between Rules men and non-Rules men. I hope your clients learn to see the difference, too… I owe so much to you, Kim!!! Just the books alone I don’t think were enough for me. I needed a living, breathing embodiment of The Rules and being a CUAO such as yourself to learn from!

-Miss to Mrs Success Story

It took her a long time to learn, but she made it! She’s married. Everyone needs their own time to learn The Rules. She never gave up on coaching with me. She worked closely with me from the moment she met Mr. Right and called me during the Critical Window, throughout their relationship, and even after the engagement.

She followed me all over the world wherever I traveled with my husband. When things got difficult, confusing or weird, she called me for advice. #CallKimNotHim

I was strict and tough but she never flinched. Never took it personally or complained about how it was hard to hear. She was happy and grateful for the truth. She would rather me scold her privately than to go out into the world making moronic blunders.

She went from being dumped by a broker loser living with his Mom and delivering vegetables to a marrying lawyer who is successful and stable in his career.

It’s been a wondrous journey of truth and transformation.

Ever since she met me, she had always dreamed of being one of my success stories and is happy to share her wedding photos.

Rules by rote isn’t enough. The key to doing The Rules is to make it seem like you’re not.

The books give you the vocabulary but only an accomplished teacher can show you a way of being that is alluring, intriguing, and captivating. This can only be taught in a person-to-person manner through role modeling techniques.

You must project that aura of femininity that seems to come out of your pores in an effortless, uncontrived way… As if you were born with it.

We all need role models who can help us achieve things we could never do on our own.

Coaching is that sacred space where I share my energy and natural talents.

The most powerful gift I can ever give to my clients is the aura of supreme feminine poise, quiet confidence, and deep self-belief.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Miss to Mrs

Our Time

On this day, we said, “I do.”

Today is our 19th wedding anniversary. I am writing this blog in honor of my husband.

I am so thankful and supremely blessed to be married to a man so devoted to the idea of romantic love and believes in putting his wife first, above all else, including himself.

He learned this from his father, who was his role model for the ideal husband. His father was so devoted to his mother, he put her above everyone else, including his kids until the day she died.

If you ever wonder why your married girlfriends drop off or don’t make you a priority, please do not feel hurt, resentful or take it personally.

A married woman has obligations and commitments to her family. Her husband comes first. Everything else comes after, including children.

This is why we never had kids. We did not want to share our time and attention with anyone else but each other.

It was our second year of marriage that my husband wrote this to me expressing his ideal vision and wish for our marriage as newlyweds.

May this serve as a gentle reminder for both newlyweds and wives who have been married a long time to honor their commitments.

Quality time is one of my husband’s primary love languages. It is also the most valuable commodity on earth.

Togetherness was so important to him that doing nothing together was more important than doing something apart.

“Our Time”

Make it a point to honor and respect the time we share. Among all the hours in the day, consciously plan your day such that you won’t stomp on “our time.”

Make it a point to communicate if you regrettably can’t fulfill your commitment to be present for “our time.”

After all, if you can’t make it, you owe it to your spouse to free them of their obligation for that hour, evening, day, etc… So that they may do something else in that time.

The time we share is the reason to live. It is LIFE.

It is more important to DO NOTHING TOGETHER than to do something apart.

It’s not that you don’t have enough time in life to get things done…

It’s very unfortunate that we only have at most a few hours of “our time” a day to actually live.

Everything we do is for our LIFE TOGETHER.

Stomping on this is putting things ahead of life.

Raman Evazians

If you want your relationship to be a success story, then follow my strict but successful dating advice:

“Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.”

Sound too good to be true? Believe it. I’m living proof. So are clients who called me and got the ring.

If you are serious about getting that all-important proposal, I look forward to working with you.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

For advice, please book an appointment by sending a Wufoo Form.

Advice By Kim

Romantic Litmus Test

How to tell if he’s in love…

Since you can’t just go up to a man and ask him if he’s going to propose, there are truth-telling signs that indicate the likelihood of this happening if you pay attention to behavior, not just his words.

Everything I need to know about a man’s intentions lies in his actions… Or lack thereof. Observe how he treats you on your birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s. It’s the ultimate litmus test for knowing if he’s truly in love with you or not.

Love comes in little blue boxes.

-Rules Coach Kim Evazians
Tiffany photos courtesy of client

Men who are in love do not forget or ignore Valentine’s Day. They take every opportunity to shower you with love, affectionate words, and romantic gifts. And they will often do it by surprise.

In fact, they will give you romantic gifts all the time, on any random day, not just on Valentine’s Day… Even if they are on a tight budget.

Here’s a sweet story from my client during their 7-day honeymoon cruise last week. She got Tiffany as an early Valentine surprise!

We were walking on the cruise ship and stopped at Tiffany’s. Looked at some jewelry together. I tried on a few things, including what he already bought. But at that time I wasn’t sure.

The next day, we were just walking around and he insisted we go in again. So I tried the bracelet and necklace and he asked me if I liked them. I said, “Yes,” and he bought it.

He said, “Happy Valentine’s Day, my love!”

Happy Newlywed
Early Valentine’s Day Surprise

This tells me he had already made up his mind the day before and set his intentions on getting her Tiffany all along. That’s why he took her back!

I’m sharing this story as the perfect example of a success story done “Kim Evazians Style.” It passes my Romantic Litmus Test. This is the kind of relationship I want for all my clients to have when they meet their Mr. Right.

Over the years, I’m seeing a common pattern among my own relationship and my success stories: flowers, Tiffany jewelry and romantic gifts from a man who cherishes us and happily does these things. These are classic, traditional tokens of love.

Congrats! Welcome to the Tiffany Club!

Rules Girls are not selfish, entitled gold-diggers. We are women with a high degree of femininity who are respectful of masculine leadership. We are considerate, gracious and deserving of romantic love from a mature, marriage-minded man who gets pleasure from giving on his own terms.

Another client has a similar story. She got a proposal in 4 months after meeting her husband on Match. May her testimony be your template.

Dear Kim, He treats me like the Queen I am. Gifts for no reason, Tiffany necklace for Christmas, flowers just because and I can go on and on…

I know what it’s supposed to be like. This time I was not going to date men with no future plans and waste months of my life.

Just Engaged

The Rules Book advises women to end it if he doesn’t buy you a romantic gift on these two romantic occasions: your birthday and Valentine’s Day.

If he doesn’t, then it’s highly unlikely he will give you the most romantic gift of all–an engagement ring.

RULE #12: Stop dating him if he doesn’t buy you a romantic gift for your birthday or Valentine’s Day.


Observe with your eyes and act according to what you actually see, not how you wish things could be. Have the courage to accept when a man is not in love with you and move on. You owe it to yourself to walk away and find your Mr. Right. No one is going to do it for you.

Question 1: What if he doesn’t give a romantic gift for my birthday, Christmas or Valentine’s Day?

Advice By Kim 1: Accept that he’s just not that into you and let him go. Rules Girls don’t get mad. They get another guy.

Question 2: But what if he gives practical gifts in addition to jewelry and flowers?

Advice By Kim 2: Practical gifts are not a bad thing in and of themselves. He can buy you practical gifts, too… As a companion gift to a romantic one or if he’s already given you romantic gifts (e.g. jewelry, an engagement ring) and you are engaged or married.

It’s when he doesn’t buy you any romantic gifts at all. That’s the nail in the coffin.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

Recommended Books:
1. All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
2. The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace
3. Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
4. The New Rules: Dating Do’s and Don’ts for the Digital Generation

How to Work with Kim: Advice by appointment only. Please do not email unless if you are a client and I am requesting information for an upcoming consult. Due to the constant overload of emails, I am unable to answer any questions that are not booked and paid for through my website. To book a consult, please submit a Wufoo form. Thank you for your cooperation in this matter.

Miss to Mrs

Homeless to Happily Married

She went from homeless to happily married in one year.

Just Married – Congratulations to a client who just said, “I do”!

Their wedding was on the anniversary of their first date. Now on a Caribbean cruise for their honeymoon!

Before The Rules, she was a classic sob story. She found me last Christmas after a bad breakup. Her ex told her she had to move out and she was homeless for the holidays. By February, she went on her first Match date and he proposed in 6.5 months.

Read her story: “I got introduced to The Rules last year. Found Kim’s page in December. In January after a terrible breakup, I went on Match and pushed myself to start dating. I applied The Rules for the first time ever.

I was following Kim’s advice on her FB page and in her group. I also had a few consultations with Kim.

I only had one date with my fiance and the rest is history. He is the perfect Rules guy. He always asked to see me in advance, brings flowers almost every week, gives me romantic gifts and treats me like a queen.

We were exclusive after 2 months. He never canceled a date. Never made me worry. He always compliments me and notices everything. He always drives to pick me up and every single time opens a car door to help me to get in and out. I’ve never been so happy before.

He asked about my ring size and what kind of jewelry I like after we became exclusive. He told me that he knew on the first date he wants to build a long lasting relationship with me.

Thank you so much, Kim Evazians and The Rules!” -Miss to Mrs Success Story

She went from homeless to happily married. See every struggle as an opportunity to triumph.

Women who invest in coaching get to the altar faster because they know they are worth it.

Kim Evazians
The Strict But Successful Coach

P.S. – Do you have your copy of The Rules yet?

Recommended Books:
1. All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
2. The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace
3. Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
4. The New Rules: Dating Do’s and Don’ts for the Digital Generation